Friday, February 18, 2011
And Men STILL don't understand why we keep an attitude...
I hate being a bitch. I really do, but what else is there to be when you have men that can't accept the fact that you are not interested? In some cases, persistence is great! It is even sexy, depending on how it's done and who is doing the chasing, but when a woman says, "I'm not interested", and she means it, that should be the end of the conversation.
There have been two situations in which I really felt like grabbing something and driving it all the way through the bodies of men. One time, a friend girl and I were at a bar chillin'. I think I was going through something at that time, so I wanted a drink, and she agreed to go with me to hear me out as I ranted and raved about whatever it was that I was going through. A short, fat guy walked up and started a conversation with us. I wasn't in the mood for talking to him, so I didn't smile and make him think that I was interested. He turned to me and said, "I have a friend down there that is really interested in talking to you." Ok, first of all, that's a grown ass man down there! Why didn't he bring his tall lanky ass down here and tell me that for himself? 2nd of all, why did he send Santa's funny looking elf to deliver the message, and 3rd of all, I'm not interested.
So, I tell the fella that I'm not interested in meeting anybody. He goes on and says, "Well, why don't you two come down here and sit with us for a little while. No strings attached, we are just watching the game and want a little company."
I gave him my patented look which says, "I'm about two seconds off your ass" and said, "Thank you for the invite, but we didn't come here to meet anybody. We just came to chat and have girl talk." Even after that, Dumpy STILL insisted on us coming down there, so I just cut him off in mid sentence and turned around and started talking to the bartender. He told me that I was wrong for doing that, and I explained to him that I had already told him twice that I was not interested in conversing, and at that point, it was up to him to keep talking to me. I was cutting the conversation off. After this happened, he paid for my friend girl's drink and not mine.....Awwwwww boo hoo!
Negro please! I flipped out 3 CRISP $100.00 bills to tear off one to pay for my own shit! ( I mean, yeah, that was my light bill and cell phone bill money, but Dumpy didn't have to know that!)
Another incident: A friend girl and I, actually, it was the same girl. We are no longer friends, but we were friends at that time...but anyway. She and I were at a different location to have drinks and listen to music. A guy approached and started talking. I spoke to him and he proceeded to talk to my friend. After realizing that I wasn't engaging myself in the conversation, he called me "Anti-Social". Sigh....No, I'm not anti-social. I just don't talk when I don't want to. Of course he got mad at me and had no more words for me. Yep! You guessed it...Awwwwww boo hoo!
I honestly feel that a lot of men are so used to women falling all over them and giving them attention, that they don't know how to react when a woman actually says "No". There are too many women out there that fall for the sweet talk, but then again, there are women out there that fall when a man says, "Hello". Well, I'm just not one of them. I don't see myself as being anti-social, mean, bitter or whatever. I just don't talk when I don't want to. Don't get me wrong about this either: I go out a lot to meet new people, mix and mingle. Matter of fact, I love meeting new people, but it is is a common mistake to think that women are out to meet new men, or to be approached just because she is seen out with her friends, or alone. This should be cleared up right now!
I am very content with myself. I can go out alone and sit at a bar and have a nice drink, develop a buzz, and go into my own little world without friends being with me, or a man approaching me. There are a lot of women that are happy with just going out and having fun. Yes, there are some women that get all grooved up and shiny to go out to be approached, but men should begin to recognize the difference. If a man approaches a woman and she responds with a smile and invites him to have a seat next to her to converse, then hey, that's your girl, but if a woman tells a man that she is not interested and that she is out to just enjoy herself, then he should just leave her alone! Every woman is not a desperate bird! True, a lot of us are, but a lot of us are not! Girl's Just Wanna Have Funnnnnnn! Go Cyndi Lauper!
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