Sunday, January 2, 2011

The Writing Assassin: The Dating Scene Is So BLAH!!

The Writing Assassin: The Dating Scene Is So BLAH!!: "Oh my goodness! What in the world happened to men that opened doors for women, and took women to nice restaurants to eat dinner? Where are t..."

The Dating Scene Is So BLAH!!

Oh my goodness! What in the world happened to men that opened doors for women, and took women to nice restaurants to eat dinner? Where are the men that take it upon themselves to put on a suit and tie, fresh hair cut and smelling good, show up for the date with a rose, or roses and a smile? Where are the men that like to cater to the woman and make her feel special?


Going to Chilis, TGI Fridays, McDonald's, etc. is not the way to go when you are really trying to impress a lady. A lot of men will probably say that there aren't a lot of women out here that deserve or appreciate it, but when is the last time that they have even tried it? When is the last time that a man has shown up at a woman's door with roses, candy, and a card, and took her out to a 5 star restaurant and had a decent conversation with her, then afterward, take her to HIS place, take her shoes off for her, rub her feet and make her feel magnificent? It just doesn't happen like that these days.

Truth be told, there are a lot of women out there that wouldn't appreciate it; I have to admit that, but that's when common sense should come into play. You don't give that kind of treatment to women that don't deserve or appreciate it; you put in the time and effort to seek the woman that DOES appreciate it. There are a lot of women that are fed up with bull*****, because that's all we know. Yes, I said, "We" which includes me. When a woman seems to be full of attitude, and unappreciative, if you respect, and want that woman enough, you do all you can to dig deep and find out why she is like that, and attempt to change things around. Most men say that women bring a lot of baggage with them into new relationships; that is DEFINITELY because that is what we are used to, and we just sit up and say, "Ok, when is this fool going to show his true colors?" Men really don't try to do things differently anymore. They are so defensive when women have attitudes. ALL WE WANT IS TO BE IMPRESSED, LOVED, AND NURTURED.

It's not such a bad thing when a woman seems to be full of baggage, because if she doesn't take it upon herself to tell you about her past, her actions and attitudes will let you know anyway. If you give it your all to dig deep and show her that you really love her and that you are different, if it doesn't work, then push on; you tried.

Trust me, if men would be the "Take Charge" type of men that we want and desire so badly, things would be so different in relationships. It just seems that men are not willing to really put forth that much effort anymore for women. The older I get, the more I realize that REAL men, like the ones that show up in suits and ties to really impress women, are extinct. Someone told me once that I have to date an OLDER guy to get that kind of treatment. No, I'm not attracted to OLDER men like that. Sorry. There has to be an attraction, because it's not all about the way the man treats me. Yes, that's lot of it, but a man has to try to bring the total package.

Listen, if more men would take charge, be real men, and do everything in their power to make women feel like women, men will then find that a lot of women are not the dramatic creatures that walk around carrying baggage and attitudes. There are too many women out here, including me, that are not used to be catered to, but we are used to men wanting to be catered to, and THAT'S what we are tired of. If we cater to you, appreciate it and return the love. Don't sit around thinking that it's the way it's SUPPOSED to be. Women want to feel protected, provided for, and loved. We want to know that men want to impress us. I'm telling you; if more men would show up and show out, do things out of the norm, and at least attempt to go above and beyond, more women would be happy. There would be more successful relationships, and more women walking around with smiles on their faces.

Men can control the way a lot of women are today. Since a lot of men want to be called "MEN", here's something that they seem to forget that comes with it: being called a MAN has to be deserved. Since men want to be called MEN, they should start recognizing that women are precious jewels that should be protected just like the jewels in a jewelry store. We have men that work as security at jewelry stores in which they have to protect what people buy, but they don't go home and do the same for their women.

Well, I want to see more 5 star restaurants, more suits and ties, and more attempts at impressing me. I'm tired of being the only one that dresses up, puts on makeup and brings my A game every time I go out. I want to feel protected, nurtured, appreciated, and cared for in dating and relationships. If this is too much to ask, and I have to end up being alone for the rest of my life, oh well. Count me in.