Your Resume is Extremely Impressive, But....Your Skin Doesn't Meet The Requirements.

A young, Black, seemingly intelligent man walked into our office today, about ten minutes early for his interview. (He had sat in his car for about 45 minutes prior to walking in). I told him that the manager will be with him shortly. Another girl that is here from the corporate office looked at the young man as he walked into the office to talk to the manager about the job. She then looked at me and said, “He just looked wiped out! He should do a cartwheel or something! I mean, it’s a job! I would hire somebody if they seemed excited about it!” ***So, you are telling me that you would hire a fool that came in the office and broke out in a cartwheel?***



The young man stayed in the office for about twenty minutes. He calmly walked out, and I asked the manager after he left, “So how did it go with him?” She said, “He is too mellow for me. He has an extremely impressive resume though, and he is very intelligent!” She said this in a voice that let me know that she will not be hiring him.

So, let me get this right. He is a very well dressed young man, seems to be a gentleman and business minded, has a very impressive resume, (it has to be impressive, because you have spoken with this young man about three times over the phone), he has called in to see if the position was filled which shows that he is a go getter, he showed up very early, and walked in the office ten minutes early, but……he’s too mellow. Anybody else confused?

It’s funny how many people say that racism doesn’t exist, or that we are pulling the “race card” when we call it out or recognize it. It’s extremely obvious that this is a “racial thing.” I’m already the only African American in the office, so of course they don’t want another one, right? OF COURSE NOT!

When the girl said that she would hire somebody that seemed more excited about the job and did a cartwheel, it made my mind go right to “Black Face”. I guess she thinks that he should have come in with a dark face, white teeth and eyes, and did a “gud ol’ country dance to make huh der laff!” We already have to jump through enough hoops.

To my brother that came in for the job, I apologize for you having to wake up, get dressed, and come out early. You seem very nice, perfect for the job, and your resume is almost on the level with Barack Obama’s, but you are not eligible for the position. Don’t call them; they won’t call you.

Ex Boyfriends, oh Ex Boyfriends.....JUST GO AWAY!

Lately, I have had some strange encounters with these Creatures of the Black La'Past! It gives me a chuckle or two how they feel like they can just pop back up and expect me to be all happy that they decided to call, text, or inbox me on Facebook.

Yesterday, a guy I dated (thankfully for a very short time so it never got too serious), that I just knew didn't know what the inside of a kitchen looked like, contacted me and asked if he could cook dinner for me. Ummm...let me think about that one. *turns around and thinks.* Ok, I have your answer. HELL NO! On top of this guy being extremely weird, he was too much of a "socialite". He wanted to go out all the time and be around people that I didn't particularly care for. It became a problem when I told him that I didn't care to run the streets like he did, so, he basically called it off. I tried to get him to cool it and just chill with me sometimes, but he told me that "he couldn't just sit around the house and watch movies; he wasn't that type of guy." Now, he wants to cook me dinner, and rent some movies to sit and watch together. Anybody else confused?





There used to be a time when I would be so happy when an ex tried to call me and get back with me, then, I realized that it is really just a thing that they do; it became a normal thing, then it got boring. They don't miss their water until the well runs dry. Now, I can't help but turn my nose up and wish they were teetering on the side of the earth, so I can walk up and give them a gentle push! Hey! I said, "gentle"! Doesn't that count for being nice?

It cracks me up how an ex can be all hell bent on leaving you, but when you don't give them time or concern,they attempt to come back in full force like nothing ever happened. No mention of the past, no "I'm sorry for what I did" or nothing. Just call me up and say, "Hey! So, what cha doing tonight?" My answer to a question like that from an ex would be, "Well, other than bending over and giving you a good aim for your lips, ummmm....I have nothing else to do."
That's why I always tell people, if they want to leave you, go ahead and let them go! The sooner you let them go, the more time they will have to think about how absolutely awesome you are, then they will start missing you, then they will call you or contact you in some way. The ex that wants to cook for me had my phone number, but I changed the number that he had, so he actually took the time to find me on Facebook.

I was listening to a song this morning by Frankie Beverly and Maze called, Before I Let Go", and it struck something in me. The part where he says, "I want to make sure I'm right before I let go." I think a lot of people can learn a lot from those few words. More people should make sure it's right before they just walk away from somebody, especially if it means that they will avoid embarrassment when they are turned down by trying to get them back later.

"The Game" the TV Show. Could It Be A Bust?

Could the show, "The Game" be dying out ALREADY?

Possibly so. The first two shows were great! I must say that when BET picked up the show, the very first show, which was an hour long, was an outstanding one! I wasn't even expecting it to be all that great! It almost had me on the edge of my seat, and it gave me so much anticipation for the next show. The second show was ok as well, and it still had me anticipating the next one. The one that was watched last night had me feeling....well...."blehhhh". I could have done without that one.

I have always liked Tasha Mack! Her character is funny and reminds me so much of myself in too many ways! It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that Melani (Med School) is pregnant, so how long are they going to try to drag that out? Derwin is still.....well....Derwin. Malik!!!!!! WHAT IN THE WORLD IS GOING ON WITH THIS CHARACTER??? Are they going to come out the box and say that he is on drugs or something? They way overdid his character this go round. He is very cocky and ignorant. Malik is my very favorite. It may have something to do with me wanting to tie him up and keep him in my basement of love, I'm not sure, but the way he is acting is really putting a bad taste in my mouth. The part with the police officer last night was just dumb or something. That's the only word I can come up with right now.

I understand that they have to really try hard to keep the show on because they were canceled the first time, but come on! In my eyes, it may be just a little too hard. I mean, in just one show, Melanie gave Derwin's baby a swab test to make sure that the baby did in fact belong to Derwin, (and you sistas can stop lying to yourself now. You know if you had those means to do so, you would have done the exact same thing. I know I'm not the only one!) but in the same show, the baby was his, then it wasn't his, now, on the show they had last night, they didn't bring up anything about it.

I never cared too much for the blonde headed girl, what's her name? Anyway, yeah, she can just leave now. I never did like her, and her ex Jason, I didn't really care about him either. I just feel like they needed another couple so they were the chosen ones to fill that spot.

I felt like something was missing last night. Well, I actually felt that a whole lot was missing. Too much stuff is going too fast, or not going at all.
I honestly feel like last night was a sign that it's not going to really last that long....again. I was shocked to see a lot a statuses on Facebook that proved that I wasn't the only one feeling this way. If the next two shows suck, then we will need an intervention!

Oh yeah, the blonde gal's name is Kelly. Whatever.

The End Of The World This and That.....YADDA YADDA YADDA!

Ok, dead birds are falling dead out of the sky in Arkansas and Louisiana....must mean the end of the world is near! Ugh!

My washer stopped working....must mean the end of the world is near! Ugh!


Every single thing that happens is NOT pointed directly straight to the end of the world! I really see why it is very important to control your own mind and thought process; it's extremely important to monitor what your children are watching on television and seeing on the internet. Well, I guess it is hard for adults to monitor this when they, themselves will believe anything.

Nobody knows when the end of the world is. There is no calendar, phone call, website, or human that can tell you an exact date. The only One that can guarantee this, is the Creator of this place. Leave that up to the Creator.

If the world ends tomorrow, there is nothing that we can do or say to either stop it or prepare for it. I even read an article where a man quit his job and only had enough savings to last him through to December 21, 2012, because this is supposedly the day when it will all be over.

Face it; there are some nut jobs out there, and they have a lot of intelligence. They know how to break down and rebuild computers, and some of them have the knowledge it takes to be a genius. Most of this stuff that people read or hear is definitely to control the minds of other humans. With this being said, it's obvious that it is easy to overtake and control someone else's mind; people do it every day.
It really takes a lot for me to believe something, especially something as extreme as "2012 is the end of the world!" I will have to see it to believe it. Instead of thinking that date is the end of the world, we should focus on trying to even make it that far.

The world is so full of craziness. There are way more important things to be concerned with. Let's deal with homelessness, foster children, and world hunger. Maybe if we put the time and effort that we use to believe everything we see, hear, and read on stuff like that, perhaps this WOULD be a way better world.

Control your OWN minds people.

Parenting 101 From A Non-Parent

I'm sitting in my office watching this 11 year old young boy come back and forth to my coworker for help with the computer in our business center. He is alone; no parent or guardian in site. I see it all the time during school; children come into the business center to attempt to do homework, and get on social sites such as Myspace, Facebook, Twitter, etc. with no help. As soon as they have problems with homework or whatever they are doing, they come in to us as we work and ask us to help them with their work.

This is really sad. It's a small reminder that children are not being raised properly at all these days. I remember when I was younger; there was no way in the world my mom would have sent me into a place of business to get on a public computer alone without her at least sitting in the car and waiting for me. I'm at work, so there should be no reason for me to continuously have to help other adults' children with their school assignments.

Children are running rampant and losing their minds, cursing, fighting, joining gangs, and not attempting to set or reach any goals, but parents are sitting back watching it happen with a dumb look on their faces.
Some parents have even been heard saying, "I have washed my hands with Jr." but are they really washing their hands of their children, or did they wash their hands from the parenting obligations a long time ago?

One girl came in the office one time with her four year old daughter, and this child was EVERYWHERE! She was taking things off of my desk, and running all over the place. An older lady asked the young mother why she wouldn't spank the little girl to make her act right, and she said, "Oh I just couldn't do that. It would break my heart to spank her." I guess she is basically saying that she won't mind when the little girl grows up and starts spanking her, because that's definitely where she is headed. I instantly felt sorry for the daycare workers that will have to handle her.

Laziness has crept up on a lot of parents, there are too many parents that have no business being parents, and some parents that can't even spell "parent".
This is really becoming a sad, and also scary thing, because this is the future that we are talking about. Like Bernie Mac said, "Ain't no more Big Mama's" Big Mama was that old black woman with the cigarette hanging out of her mouth and the wig tilted to the side that kept a big fat switch in her purse "just in case." Big Mama could look at you and make you sit down and stop doing wrong without her having to speak a word.

I know my nerves are bad, plus, although I absolutely love small kids, I don't want any of my own. I will accept them into my life if I happen to date or marry someone that has them, but for me to have some? Nada!

I miss those Big Mamas.

Tameka's Prescription for Health! Satisfaction Guaranteed!

Head-Ache? Stop worrying about what other people do and say.

Tooth-Ache? Shut your mouth; stop letting so much air get in it.

Nose bleed? Stop sticking your nose where it doesn't belong.

Ear-Ache? Stop listening to the wrong things and wrong people.

Heart-Ache? Don't store so much hurt and anger in it. It can only hold so much.

High Blood Pressure? Control your temper and attitude.

Foot-Ache? Stop taking yourself so fast; take things one step at a time.

Arm-Ache? Hug some people, and let yourself be first in line.

Vision Problems? Always see things clearly. Never overlook anything.

Jaw-Ache? Smile! It stretches and relaxes the muscles in your face.
(Smile at someone! Encourage them to join you in the jaw muscle relaxation)

Confusion? Start back over and read this again.

The Writing Assassin: The Dating Scene Is So BLAH!!

The Writing Assassin: The Dating Scene Is So BLAH!!: "Oh my goodness! What in the world happened to men that opened doors for women, and took women to nice restaurants to eat dinner? Where are t..."

The Dating Scene Is So BLAH!!

Oh my goodness! What in the world happened to men that opened doors for women, and took women to nice restaurants to eat dinner? Where are the men that take it upon themselves to put on a suit and tie, fresh hair cut and smelling good, show up for the date with a rose, or roses and a smile? Where are the men that like to cater to the woman and make her feel special?

SOMEONE TOLD ME ONCE THAT I SHOULDN'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING THAT I SEE ON TV, BECAUSE THE MEN THAT TREAT THOSE WOMEN RIGHT ON TV ARE ACTORS. SO DOES THAT MEAN THAT I SHOULD BECOME A DAMN ACTRESS TO GET THE SAME TREATMENT THAT I SHOULD BE GETTING ANYWAY!!!?????


Going to Chilis, TGI Fridays, McDonald's, etc. is not the way to go when you are really trying to impress a lady. A lot of men will probably say that there aren't a lot of women out here that deserve or appreciate it, but when is the last time that they have even tried it? When is the last time that a man has shown up at a woman's door with roses, candy, and a card, and took her out to a 5 star restaurant and had a decent conversation with her, then afterward, take her to HIS place, take her shoes off for her, rub her feet and make her feel magnificent? It just doesn't happen like that these days.

Truth be told, there are a lot of women out there that wouldn't appreciate it; I have to admit that, but that's when common sense should come into play. You don't give that kind of treatment to women that don't deserve or appreciate it; you put in the time and effort to seek the woman that DOES appreciate it. There are a lot of women that are fed up with bull*****, because that's all we know. Yes, I said, "We" which includes me. When a woman seems to be full of attitude, and unappreciative, if you respect, and want that woman enough, you do all you can to dig deep and find out why she is like that, and attempt to change things around. Most men say that women bring a lot of baggage with them into new relationships; that is DEFINITELY because that is what we are used to, and we just sit up and say, "Ok, when is this fool going to show his true colors?" Men really don't try to do things differently anymore. They are so defensive when women have attitudes. ALL WE WANT IS TO BE IMPRESSED, LOVED, AND NURTURED.

It's not such a bad thing when a woman seems to be full of baggage, because if she doesn't take it upon herself to tell you about her past, her actions and attitudes will let you know anyway. If you give it your all to dig deep and show her that you really love her and that you are different, if it doesn't work, then push on; you tried.

Trust me, if men would be the "Take Charge" type of men that we want and desire so badly, things would be so different in relationships. It just seems that men are not willing to really put forth that much effort anymore for women. The older I get, the more I realize that REAL men, like the ones that show up in suits and ties to really impress women, are extinct. Someone told me once that I have to date an OLDER guy to get that kind of treatment. No, I'm not attracted to OLDER men like that. Sorry. There has to be an attraction, because it's not all about the way the man treats me. Yes, that's lot of it, but a man has to try to bring the total package.

Listen, if more men would take charge, be real men, and do everything in their power to make women feel like women, men will then find that a lot of women are not the dramatic creatures that walk around carrying baggage and attitudes. There are too many women out here, including me, that are not used to be catered to, but we are used to men wanting to be catered to, and THAT'S what we are tired of. If we cater to you, appreciate it and return the love. Don't sit around thinking that it's the way it's SUPPOSED to be. Women want to feel protected, provided for, and loved. We want to know that men want to impress us. I'm telling you; if more men would show up and show out, do things out of the norm, and at least attempt to go above and beyond, more women would be happy. There would be more successful relationships, and more women walking around with smiles on their faces.

Men can control the way a lot of women are today. Since a lot of men want to be called "MEN", here's something that they seem to forget that comes with it: being called a MAN has to be deserved. Since men want to be called MEN, they should start recognizing that women are precious jewels that should be protected just like the jewels in a jewelry store. We have men that work as security at jewelry stores in which they have to protect what people buy, but they don't go home and do the same for their women.

Well, I want to see more 5 star restaurants, more suits and ties, and more attempts at impressing me. I'm tired of being the only one that dresses up, puts on makeup and brings my A game every time I go out. I want to feel protected, nurtured, appreciated, and cared for in dating and relationships. If this is too much to ask, and I have to end up being alone for the rest of my life, oh well. Count me in.

#JustSayin'