I'm sure my fellow Basketball Wives junkies already know what this blog is about just by reading the title! Ever since I first saw the preview for the show where Eric throws the drink in Jennifer's face (which at the time of me writing this blog was a week ago), I was all in Jenn's corner! I was like, how dare he throw that drink in that girl's face! No matter what she said to him, that was flat out disrespectful, and he is a punk for doing it! Now, fast forward a week, and the show airs. I wouldn't miss it for the world, because I couldn't wait to see that part and see what happened to lead up to the ugly event. Picture it:
Jenn and Eric are sitting at the table. The conversation begins to get a little heated because Jenn says something about "Eric should have checked his mother" about some situation that had gone on between her and his mother. He was like, "What? Check my mother? Are you crazy? THAT'S MY MOTHER! Nobody checks my mom, ya know what I'm sayin'?" Which I kind of agree with him, because there is a huge difference between "Checking" mom, and respectfully telling mom to mind her own business. Anyway, it gets a little more heated, so he gets up to walk away and end the conversation. All of a sudden, Jenn says, "Whatever" and picks up a drink and throws it at him. She did it calmly as if she didn't expect a response. He politely turns around and picks up a drink that was on the table and THROWS it HARD in her face, leaving her to look like a shocked, sad, embarrassed, wet poodle. She got up from the table looking all weak and helpless and says, "I WILL *bleep* YOU UP!" (((Come on, Jenn. Really? You're embarrassing yourself even more.))) I have to give it to Eric though, I hate the fact that he threw the drink in her face, I absolutely HATE that, but at least he did just walk away.
IF YOU CAN'T PICTURE IT, HERE IT IS:
My thing is, ONCE AGAIN, I hate the fact that he dashed her with the drink, but all the time I was waiting to see the show, I had no idea that she had thrown a drink at him first. Was she right for thinking that he wouldn't retaliate? Yeah, probably so, BUT........ I totally believe in not doing something to someone that you wouldn't want done to you. When I saw that she was getting ready throw the drink at him first, I was like, "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! PUT THAT DRINK DOWN!!!!!!!" I felt almost disappointed in her for doing it. She says that there was never any physical violence in their marriage and I really hope not, but seeing the way he acts and how he did that.......
***** I KNOW THAT THE MEN THAT SAY I "MALE BASH" ALL THE TIME WILL LOVE THIS NEXT PART *****
Now, I'm a woman, and I can honestly say that too many of us feel like we can get away with things just because we ARE women. We are known to be delicate creatures, and we absolutely want to be treated as such, but yes, we can really get out of hand sometimes. I have seen women get in a man's face and YELL as if she was a man, herself. (Ok, yes, I have done this before, but I was younger and had no idea about being a lady). I have seen women totally disrespect men in public and talk to them as if they were children. Now, me personally, I do NOT want a man that would allow me to disrespect him and treat him as less of a man; that's just not sexy, but there are a lot of men that allow women to get away with this, which gives her the right to continue to walk all over him.
Was Eric totally wrong for what he did?
BEFORE WOMEN GET MAD AT ME FOR EVEN HAVING THE NERVE TO ASK THAT QUESTION, JUST CALM DOWN AND THINK ABOUT IT FIRST, THEN READ ON:
The only difference in their actions is that she threw the drink at his back, and he tossed his in her face. He didn't physically harm her in any way. The drink wasn't able to put any bruises or scars on her face. I was honestly assuming that he had found out that she was dating the light skinned cutie, Will, and got mad and dashed her with the drink. I was absolutely LIVID because of that assumption.
I'm not TOTALLY in this man's corner, but I'm not TOTALLY in Jenn's corner either. In my eyes, SHE SHOULDN'T HAVE THROWN THE DRINK IN THE FIRST PLACE, and HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN MAN ENOUGH TO HAVE JUST WALKED AWAY WHEN SHE DID IT. #AndI'mThrough
Even tho I didn't see this episode of BBW's I got to say Eric had every right to attack back in that manner. Yes, your right Tameka women feel that they can do things & get away with it just because your a woman. That's just like calling the police on your man for a fight that you started & MORE than likely their(cops) going to side with that woman. No matter what. Like the old saying goes if you can dish it out you sure need to be able to take it as well. That's just my opinion. Really not a fan of BBW's anyway but, oh well
ReplyDeleteLOL! I do thank you for being a continuous supporter of my blogs. It says a lot about you to not be a fan of BBW, but still took time to read my blog and comment. Thank you, and I absolutely agree about the cops being called situation.
ReplyDeleteI really respect and enjoyed how you looked at BOTH sides and you spoke TRUTH about women who disrespect men and talk to them like kids. And as a MAN there is NO WAY I would allow ANY woman to treat me like that in public or private. And I would NEVER disrespect her in public or private as well. I am not condoning (spelling) what he did, because by the looks of things it only got on the bottom half of his shirt. But I also agree with you that I am glad he walked away afterwards and didn't stand there and let it get even more "ugly" than it did. I must say it was sort of funny seeing her sitting there looking all shocked afterwards. But then in the same instance for me it also looked SAD and I hated that she was humilated like that.
ReplyDeleteFinally let me say that I am NOT a fan of the show because I feel that it portrays Sista's in such a negative light and HELLO only ONE of them is actually a "Basket Ball Wife"! And I have not decided whether or not I will watch the reunion show, because by the looks of the promo it's going to be down right Ghetto Ugly. And that saddens me because I hate to see my Sista's acting like that for all the world to see.
Great Blog
LeMar
Props for putting yourself in Eric's shoes. No, he should not have thrown the drink at her. Restraint is always a responsibility of a man in my opinion. When I saw the preview of this show, it appeared to me that he threw the drink at her unprovoked. I think that was VH1's intention. For a solid week, I heard my co-workers bashing Eric without even knowing the entire story (that she threw a drink at him first). This goes to show how we take things out of context in society. We see what we want to see without any desire to know the details. All we crave is just enough info to gossip. I don't watch BBW. I've seen about four episodes in its two seasons, but I can't watch it. There's nothing real about baby mamas running across the country without their children. But, I do recognize that it's a very popular show that people claim to watch "for entertainment purposes only."
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