Lady: if you ever forget your worth, remember the fact that your heart is delicate, but has the strength of steel.
Lady, if you forget your worth, remember: self esteem is from inside to out, not outside to in. The makeup and clothes don't matter.
Lady: if you forget your worth, remember that your Creator gave you the ability give life to another human being.
Lady: if you forget your worth, sit for a moment, cry if you must, but remember all of the things that you have made it through.
Lady: if you forget your worth, pick up a history book and learn about the women that are just like you, that are known as "history".
Lady: if you forget your worth, just remember that your tears don't last always, and you have the control over when they stop.
Lady: if you forget your worth, remember that you are a woman, and you control what you will and won't tolerate.
Lady: if you forget your worth, and you are disrespected, remember that you can demand respect, or eliminate the culprit.
Lady: if you forget your worth, remember that man couldn't do right alone, so you were put here as an improvement.
Lady, if you forget your worth, remember that we go through things that males couldn't dare go through and make it.
Lady: if you forget your worth, remember that we bounce back from pain like a rubber ball, and can even work through it.
Lady: if you forget your worth, remember Proverbs 18:22, “He that finds himself a wife, finds a good thing.”
Lady: if you forget your worth, remember there was a famous song to remind gentlemen to “Treat Her Like A Lady.”
Lady: If you forget your worth, remember….I’m telling you “YOU’RE WORTH A LOT!”
Monday, September 20, 2010
Monday, September 13, 2010
Oh, You Don't Care? FINE! I Don't Either!!!
I just realized yesterday that I have lost a lot of concern for a lot of people.
I am completely aware of the fact that my first sentence of this blog is harsh, but I'm just not ashamed to admit it.
I asked myself why this was. I totally think that I have let people make me that way. Whenever I am sick, I have noticed that I don't have that many people to call and check on me. ( Ok, I know a lot of you are reading this and saying, "But you hate to talk on the phone!" so let me change that.) Whenever I am sick, I have noticed that many people don't TEXT me to check on me. Just that simple, "Hey, are you ok?" text from someone works wonders on someone like me, that feels that nobody is ever really there.
NOTICE!!!!!!!: THIS IS NOT SOME SAD WIMPY NOTE TO GET SYMPATHY!!!!!!!! #CarryOn
I used to be the one that was so concerned about other people, that when they felt down, I could actually feel it as well. I would stay in touch with them, and try to nurse them back to happiness with my inspirational quotes. Well, all of that has totally changed about me. I,sometimes,feel as if I couldn't care less about your headache that you have had for the last week, your surgery that you are about to have, your constant leg pain, your toothache, etc.
Before you get your drawz in a bunch and tell me how cruel I am, let me explain why I'm typing this blog.
I KNOW THIS IS NOT THE WAY I SHOULD BE! There, I said it. Happy now? I realize that just because I don't get a text here and there, or a friendly knock on the door to make sure I'm not in my apartment keeled over on the floor with forty pill bottles in front of me, the random gift certificate to a day spa, or the surprise party just because I'm a great person, that I am still loved by many, even though I don't hear it often. (Yes, the last two were hints *smile*)
We don't say, "I love you" enough. We don't check on each other enough. We don't really love each other enough. We don't remind each other that we are all important enough. By not doing all of these things, we are making each other not interested in doing any of it. We have to remember to love each other. I'm at the point where people KNOW that I hate talking on the phone. LOL! I have an excuse though; the phone rings all day at the office, and I get tired of talking on it! (Ok, I know that's not really an excuse.)
Now, I'm not cold hearted. I never have been, I wasn't raised that way, and it's not even really in my blood. After having so many failed friendships, a couple failed relationships, and not really being close to family, this is how I have ended up. It's totally not that I don't care about people, it's just that I don't have a desire to check on them and stay in touch. Often, we go through things with so many different people and situations, and we just get drained. It feels better to just be left alone, and not to bother. It doesn't mean that I'm inconsiderate, or not passionate about others, I would just rather be alone.
BUUUUTTTTT... I am going to change this. I am going to stay in touch (through text,email etc) with others that I should be concerned about, whether they show concern or not. Showing concern should not be based on who shows you concern; it should just be done anyway. Lately, a few people that I knew personally either fell ill, took their own life, or their life was taken by the hands of other people. I have sat and wondered if there was possibly anything that I could have done to change the outcomes.
We get that, "Why even bother?" attitude easily. That is what I have done to myself. IF YOU AREN'T WORRIED ABOUT ME, I'M NOT WORRIED ABOUT YOU!!! #Fail.
Everybody is not the same, although a lot of people really are. The unconcern of others can cause you to not be concerned. EASILY!
SOOOO.....I will begin to come out of the box to see daylight from time to time, but I will go right back inside. Maybe one day, I will come outside,sit on the porch, have a glass of lemonade and just bask in the sunshine, and have no worries or agitations. That day is coming. BABY STEPS THOUGH! BABY STEPS!
I am completely aware of the fact that my first sentence of this blog is harsh, but I'm just not ashamed to admit it.
I asked myself why this was. I totally think that I have let people make me that way. Whenever I am sick, I have noticed that I don't have that many people to call and check on me. ( Ok, I know a lot of you are reading this and saying, "But you hate to talk on the phone!" so let me change that.) Whenever I am sick, I have noticed that many people don't TEXT me to check on me. Just that simple, "Hey, are you ok?" text from someone works wonders on someone like me, that feels that nobody is ever really there.
NOTICE!!!!!!!: THIS IS NOT SOME SAD WIMPY NOTE TO GET SYMPATHY!!!!!!!! #CarryOn
I used to be the one that was so concerned about other people, that when they felt down, I could actually feel it as well. I would stay in touch with them, and try to nurse them back to happiness with my inspirational quotes. Well, all of that has totally changed about me. I,sometimes,feel as if I couldn't care less about your headache that you have had for the last week, your surgery that you are about to have, your constant leg pain, your toothache, etc.
Before you get your drawz in a bunch and tell me how cruel I am, let me explain why I'm typing this blog.
I KNOW THIS IS NOT THE WAY I SHOULD BE! There, I said it. Happy now? I realize that just because I don't get a text here and there, or a friendly knock on the door to make sure I'm not in my apartment keeled over on the floor with forty pill bottles in front of me, the random gift certificate to a day spa, or the surprise party just because I'm a great person, that I am still loved by many, even though I don't hear it often. (Yes, the last two were hints *smile*)
We don't say, "I love you" enough. We don't check on each other enough. We don't really love each other enough. We don't remind each other that we are all important enough. By not doing all of these things, we are making each other not interested in doing any of it. We have to remember to love each other. I'm at the point where people KNOW that I hate talking on the phone. LOL! I have an excuse though; the phone rings all day at the office, and I get tired of talking on it! (Ok, I know that's not really an excuse.)
Now, I'm not cold hearted. I never have been, I wasn't raised that way, and it's not even really in my blood. After having so many failed friendships, a couple failed relationships, and not really being close to family, this is how I have ended up. It's totally not that I don't care about people, it's just that I don't have a desire to check on them and stay in touch. Often, we go through things with so many different people and situations, and we just get drained. It feels better to just be left alone, and not to bother. It doesn't mean that I'm inconsiderate, or not passionate about others, I would just rather be alone.
BUUUUTTTTT... I am going to change this. I am going to stay in touch (through text,email etc) with others that I should be concerned about, whether they show concern or not. Showing concern should not be based on who shows you concern; it should just be done anyway. Lately, a few people that I knew personally either fell ill, took their own life, or their life was taken by the hands of other people. I have sat and wondered if there was possibly anything that I could have done to change the outcomes.
We get that, "Why even bother?" attitude easily. That is what I have done to myself. IF YOU AREN'T WORRIED ABOUT ME, I'M NOT WORRIED ABOUT YOU!!! #Fail.
Everybody is not the same, although a lot of people really are. The unconcern of others can cause you to not be concerned. EASILY!
SOOOO.....I will begin to come out of the box to see daylight from time to time, but I will go right back inside. Maybe one day, I will come outside,sit on the porch, have a glass of lemonade and just bask in the sunshine, and have no worries or agitations. That day is coming. BABY STEPS THOUGH! BABY STEPS!
Friday, August 6, 2010
Rest in Peace, Home Town Friend.
Mistakes, the Lord does not make. What He does is just as a stern father does to their own child; He uses stern disciplinary actions to get them in order. When tragedy strikes, a lot of us are more concerned about the “Whys”, the “whos”, the “whens” and the “buts” of the situation, but that should be of no concern to us. What we should be concerned about is: What can we do to make this situation better? What can we do to help the family of the person which whom the tragedy struck? What can we do to get our community back on track? Our children are quickly going down the wrong road, what can we do to grab the reigns? In all bad situations, there are internal, deep, important messages to be learned.
God has control over this world. Period. He controls the floods, rain, lightening, and thunder of each and every storm. In light, He also controls the colors of the rainbows after each storm. It may seem crazy to read the following statement, but it is totally true: THERE IS BEAUTY TO BE FOUND IN EACH TRAGIC, OR BAD SITUATION. It is up to us all to figure out what that beauty is, instead of focusing on how terrible the situation is itself. Focusing too hard on the negative of any situation brings, depression, anger, resentment, sickness, despair, etc. Focusing on figuring out what the beauty of the situation is gives us hope, and something to look forward to. Grieve, and focus on the situation only for a moment, because that’s natural. I’m not saying to totally forget about it as soon as it happens; that’s not possible. What I’m saying is to not let it completely get you to the point where you think there’s no hope, because there is so much hope.
There are changes to be made, kids to focus on and get on the right track, and hope to give back. This is the time to focus on the good times, and make preparations for the future, because it can be bright, if only we shine the light. This one struck very close to home, so let this be a reminder that we are only borrowing this time here on earth. ( I, myself don’t like to hear people say that, but it is the truth that sometimes stings the worst.) While we are here on earth, let’s make sure that we love each other to the best of our abilities, and not hate one another. If there is someone that doesn’t like you, or doesn’t value your time, pray for that person anyway, and send them on their way. If you are being talked about by other people, then GREAT! Think about how you would feel if NOBODY was even giving you a thought.
Senselessness is growing rapidly in our communities, and it’s killing our young children, and ones that are nearest and dearest to us.
We have our communities to get back! So, with all that being said, let’s make it happen! Rest in Peace, Richard M. Allen Jr.
God has control over this world. Period. He controls the floods, rain, lightening, and thunder of each and every storm. In light, He also controls the colors of the rainbows after each storm. It may seem crazy to read the following statement, but it is totally true: THERE IS BEAUTY TO BE FOUND IN EACH TRAGIC, OR BAD SITUATION. It is up to us all to figure out what that beauty is, instead of focusing on how terrible the situation is itself. Focusing too hard on the negative of any situation brings, depression, anger, resentment, sickness, despair, etc. Focusing on figuring out what the beauty of the situation is gives us hope, and something to look forward to. Grieve, and focus on the situation only for a moment, because that’s natural. I’m not saying to totally forget about it as soon as it happens; that’s not possible. What I’m saying is to not let it completely get you to the point where you think there’s no hope, because there is so much hope.
There are changes to be made, kids to focus on and get on the right track, and hope to give back. This is the time to focus on the good times, and make preparations for the future, because it can be bright, if only we shine the light. This one struck very close to home, so let this be a reminder that we are only borrowing this time here on earth. ( I, myself don’t like to hear people say that, but it is the truth that sometimes stings the worst.) While we are here on earth, let’s make sure that we love each other to the best of our abilities, and not hate one another. If there is someone that doesn’t like you, or doesn’t value your time, pray for that person anyway, and send them on their way. If you are being talked about by other people, then GREAT! Think about how you would feel if NOBODY was even giving you a thought.
Senselessness is growing rapidly in our communities, and it’s killing our young children, and ones that are nearest and dearest to us.
We have our communities to get back! So, with all that being said, let’s make it happen! Rest in Peace, Richard M. Allen Jr.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Don't Be A Prisoner Of Your Life
"Whatever our current circumstances may be,we must refuse to allow the events of our life to make us a prisoner." - Howard Thurman
I think that everyone that is within reading of this blog has been through some things that have made us think twice about other situations that we may encounter. Sometimes we can have the chances of our lifetime, but, because of something that has happened to us in the past, we refuse to move forward.
I, myself, admit to struggling with trust in romantic relationships. Some of you know that I struggled with a past relationship that was hard for me to let go of. I went through a point where I blamed him very hard for hurting me and I declared very loudly, that I would never be in another relationship or trust another person. Although, I do struggle with trust still, I have moved past blaming someone else for the way I felt back then. I have accepted that the way things have turned out in my life, good or bad, were just steps that were already in order for my life.
When you allow things that have brought you down before to disrupt your life to the point that you can't let go, you are blocking your blessings. I am a big believer that God cannot give you what He wants to give you, if your arms are already full of baggage. If you are holding onto something, whether it is fear, regret, pain, anger or grudge, you are a prisoner of your own life. It is supposed to be the opposite way....you are suppose to control the way you handle things that come your way. Nobody wants to be a prisoner....but if you can't let go of things that you think have crippled you, then you are a prisoner.
The mind is such a powerful thing, but if we don't control our thinking, it can take us to places that we really don't want to be. We let fear consume us to the point that we won't try anything that can help us get ahead. If we get turned down for one job, we lag at going after another one. If we don't lose those couple of extra pounds as fast as we had planned, we give up and say that "we can't do it.'' Today is the day that you need to break the chain. Step out of the shackles that are on your feet. The chains and the shackles are not locked. You don't even need the keys to them.
-All is well in our world!
-Tameka R. Frost
I think that everyone that is within reading of this blog has been through some things that have made us think twice about other situations that we may encounter. Sometimes we can have the chances of our lifetime, but, because of something that has happened to us in the past, we refuse to move forward.
I, myself, admit to struggling with trust in romantic relationships. Some of you know that I struggled with a past relationship that was hard for me to let go of. I went through a point where I blamed him very hard for hurting me and I declared very loudly, that I would never be in another relationship or trust another person. Although, I do struggle with trust still, I have moved past blaming someone else for the way I felt back then. I have accepted that the way things have turned out in my life, good or bad, were just steps that were already in order for my life.
When you allow things that have brought you down before to disrupt your life to the point that you can't let go, you are blocking your blessings. I am a big believer that God cannot give you what He wants to give you, if your arms are already full of baggage. If you are holding onto something, whether it is fear, regret, pain, anger or grudge, you are a prisoner of your own life. It is supposed to be the opposite way....you are suppose to control the way you handle things that come your way. Nobody wants to be a prisoner....but if you can't let go of things that you think have crippled you, then you are a prisoner.
The mind is such a powerful thing, but if we don't control our thinking, it can take us to places that we really don't want to be. We let fear consume us to the point that we won't try anything that can help us get ahead. If we get turned down for one job, we lag at going after another one. If we don't lose those couple of extra pounds as fast as we had planned, we give up and say that "we can't do it.'' Today is the day that you need to break the chain. Step out of the shackles that are on your feet. The chains and the shackles are not locked. You don't even need the keys to them.
-All is well in our world!
-Tameka R. Frost
*I CHERISH MY UNIFORM*
No matter what your uniform looks like...it's yours! Wear it with honor. Wear it with pride. Know that it is YOUR uniform. It was given to you. I heard on a popular television show one time, "Play the game with the uniform that you are issued." I agree with that. There is nothing you can do to change your uniform. Sure, it may be battered, it may have holes in it, it may have some dirt on it, but it still covers you.
I'm mighty.
I'm powerful.
I'm able.
I have a choice.
Your SKIN COLOR is your armor. Mine is brown. Strong. Powerful. Unique. It never changes. It covers me. It protects me. My uniform has had holes, but I have patched them up. My uniform has had bruises, but they have healed. My uniform has had scars, but the scars have healed, which shows signs of battles won. I wear my uniform with pride, dedication and honor. I am strong because of my uniform. I play the game of life with ease, because of my uniform. My uniform makes me proud; it makes me strong.
I'm bold.
I'm courage.
I'm peace.
I'm strength.
I am NOT my uniform, and it does NOT make me, but my uniform is MINE, and I will continue to wear it with dignity. I am NOT weak because of my uniform. My uniform is not strange, but it is unique. My uniform is tough, and will never let me down. I wash my uniform with gentle hands. I don't take it to the cleaners, because if I did, my uniform would be in someone else's hands, and nobody deserves to have MY UNIFORM in their hands. It's mine.
I cherish it.
I honor it.
I love it.
I embrace it.
My uniform is my skin color. My skin color is my uniform.
I'm mighty.
I'm powerful.
I'm able.
I have a choice.
Your SKIN COLOR is your armor. Mine is brown. Strong. Powerful. Unique. It never changes. It covers me. It protects me. My uniform has had holes, but I have patched them up. My uniform has had bruises, but they have healed. My uniform has had scars, but the scars have healed, which shows signs of battles won. I wear my uniform with pride, dedication and honor. I am strong because of my uniform. I play the game of life with ease, because of my uniform. My uniform makes me proud; it makes me strong.
I'm bold.
I'm courage.
I'm peace.
I'm strength.
I am NOT my uniform, and it does NOT make me, but my uniform is MINE, and I will continue to wear it with dignity. I am NOT weak because of my uniform. My uniform is not strange, but it is unique. My uniform is tough, and will never let me down. I wash my uniform with gentle hands. I don't take it to the cleaners, because if I did, my uniform would be in someone else's hands, and nobody deserves to have MY UNIFORM in their hands. It's mine.
I cherish it.
I honor it.
I love it.
I embrace it.
My uniform is my skin color. My skin color is my uniform.
!!!!!!!!!!!! RAGE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(I'm not mad everybody! LOL....I just know how it feels when you get VERY mad, so this idea came to mind. Just wanted to type it up, that's all. It's all about the different facets of writing. I'm not about to kill anyone!!!! Read, and enjoy."
I SEE RED! I CAN SEE THE WORLD EXPLODING! I'M MAD! MY EARS ARE BURNING! MY FACE IS RED!
The devil is smiling.
I HATE! I AM ANGERED! IT'S NOT FAIR! I SCREAM! I'M MURDER MAD!
The devil is laughing.
I FIND FAULT! I BLAME! I GRIT MY TEETH! I BANG MY FIST ON THE WALL!
The devil is happy.
I RUN AROUND IN ANGER! I FIGHT! I BALL MY FACE UP IN ANGER! I SCREAM!
The devil is pleased.
RAGE! RIGHT NOW, YOU ARE MY BEST FRIEND!
The devil claps his hands.
I STOMP MY FEET! I SEE BLOODSHED! I DEMAND! I AM FRUSTRATED!
The devil slides closer to me.
I HEAR MY NAME IN OTHER COVERSATIONS! WHAT ARE THEY SAYING? I'M SUSPICIOUS, THEREFORE, I AM ANGERED!
The devil whispers, "You know they are saying bad things about you, right?"
I SEE PEOPLE LOOKING AT ME! WHY ARE THEY LOOKING!? THEY ARE JUDGING ME!
The devil whispers, "Hate them!"
I COULDN'T CARE LESS! I BREAK GLASS! I AM SO ENRAGED THAT I SCREAM SO MUCH THAT I TASTE BLOOD!
The devil hands me a towel and tells me to wipe the blood from my mouth, but tells me to keep screaming.
I KICK! I ROLL ON THE FLOOR IN ANGER! I GIVE UP! I WANT TO KILL!
The devil says, "Yes! There is the person I love! Keep it up! You are doing a wonderful job!"
Soft hands wrap around me and pull me up onto my feet. Soft hands wipe my tears away and a soft whisper says, "My child, I am here."
The devil is worried!
I calm. I stop crying. My anger goes away.
The devil screams...."NOOOOOO!!!!!!''
I smile. I forgive myself. I forgive others. I know that I am better than my temper.
The devil slumps his shoulders.
I believe. I love God. I trust God.
The devil disappears.
- Tameka R. Frost
I SEE RED! I CAN SEE THE WORLD EXPLODING! I'M MAD! MY EARS ARE BURNING! MY FACE IS RED!
The devil is smiling.
I HATE! I AM ANGERED! IT'S NOT FAIR! I SCREAM! I'M MURDER MAD!
The devil is laughing.
I FIND FAULT! I BLAME! I GRIT MY TEETH! I BANG MY FIST ON THE WALL!
The devil is happy.
I RUN AROUND IN ANGER! I FIGHT! I BALL MY FACE UP IN ANGER! I SCREAM!
The devil is pleased.
RAGE! RIGHT NOW, YOU ARE MY BEST FRIEND!
The devil claps his hands.
I STOMP MY FEET! I SEE BLOODSHED! I DEMAND! I AM FRUSTRATED!
The devil slides closer to me.
I HEAR MY NAME IN OTHER COVERSATIONS! WHAT ARE THEY SAYING? I'M SUSPICIOUS, THEREFORE, I AM ANGERED!
The devil whispers, "You know they are saying bad things about you, right?"
I SEE PEOPLE LOOKING AT ME! WHY ARE THEY LOOKING!? THEY ARE JUDGING ME!
The devil whispers, "Hate them!"
I COULDN'T CARE LESS! I BREAK GLASS! I AM SO ENRAGED THAT I SCREAM SO MUCH THAT I TASTE BLOOD!
The devil hands me a towel and tells me to wipe the blood from my mouth, but tells me to keep screaming.
I KICK! I ROLL ON THE FLOOR IN ANGER! I GIVE UP! I WANT TO KILL!
The devil says, "Yes! There is the person I love! Keep it up! You are doing a wonderful job!"
Soft hands wrap around me and pull me up onto my feet. Soft hands wipe my tears away and a soft whisper says, "My child, I am here."
The devil is worried!
I calm. I stop crying. My anger goes away.
The devil screams...."NOOOOOO!!!!!!''
I smile. I forgive myself. I forgive others. I know that I am better than my temper.
The devil slumps his shoulders.
I believe. I love God. I trust God.
The devil disappears.
- Tameka R. Frost
HEYYYY! Watch Your Mouth!
I am sure we all have done it. We have all said things, and right after we say it, we say, “I shouldn’t have said that!” Well, if you thought that to yourself, then nine times out of ten, you probably shouldn’t have said it. I believe in “speaking something into existence.” Listen you all, it’s true. It may be a mere coincidence, but look to the great Red Foxx. What did he claim all of those years of doing Sanford and Son? We can all see it, He would claim that something gripped him with fear, he would rare back, grab his heart and say, “This is the big one! Elizabeth, I’m coming to join you honey!” Yes, it was funny at the time, but how did he end up dying when it was his time? He died of a heart attack.
A very ugly statement that I have heard people say to somebody is, “Kill yourself.” People, this is not cute. It’s not funny. It’s terrible. I have a family member that killed himself a couple of years back, so it grips me when I hear somebody say it. Now, check this out….I do not claim to know it all, or to be the best at these words, but trust me when I say that I KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT. When we say, “I’m broke” over and over, what happens? We seem to stay broke! When we say that our husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, etc. are cheating on us, (whether we believe it or not, or whether we are saying that to cover up what we are doing) what happens sometimes? They end up getting caught cheating! There are so many people that curse so bad, it would make a sailor cover his ears! I even see curse words in status messages on Facebook! What’s that all about?! The thing that hurts my heart the most is to see the teenagers and young women curse more than grown men. Yep, I see that everyday on Facebook too.
Let’s start watching what we say, and what we feel in our hearts. If we know we don’t want it, don’t claim it. If you want it, then claim it. Don’t claim depression, claim happiness! Instead of saying, “My tooth hurts!” Say, “I will be glad when my tooth stops hurting!” If we are broke, let’s not say it like that. Let’s say, “My empty pockets are just making room for my blessing that I will receive!”
I love you!
-Miss Tameka R. Frost
A very ugly statement that I have heard people say to somebody is, “Kill yourself.” People, this is not cute. It’s not funny. It’s terrible. I have a family member that killed himself a couple of years back, so it grips me when I hear somebody say it. Now, check this out….I do not claim to know it all, or to be the best at these words, but trust me when I say that I KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT. When we say, “I’m broke” over and over, what happens? We seem to stay broke! When we say that our husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, etc. are cheating on us, (whether we believe it or not, or whether we are saying that to cover up what we are doing) what happens sometimes? They end up getting caught cheating! There are so many people that curse so bad, it would make a sailor cover his ears! I even see curse words in status messages on Facebook! What’s that all about?! The thing that hurts my heart the most is to see the teenagers and young women curse more than grown men. Yep, I see that everyday on Facebook too.
Let’s start watching what we say, and what we feel in our hearts. If we know we don’t want it, don’t claim it. If you want it, then claim it. Don’t claim depression, claim happiness! Instead of saying, “My tooth hurts!” Say, “I will be glad when my tooth stops hurting!” If we are broke, let’s not say it like that. Let’s say, “My empty pockets are just making room for my blessing that I will receive!”
I love you!
-Miss Tameka R. Frost
YOUR MIND: Is it your friend, or your enemy?
Your mind can be your best friend, (happiness, no anger, no depression, no frustration) or it can be your worst enemy, (sadness, anger, depression, frustration). Realize that you control these emotions. A lot of people depend on medicine to control these emotions, and the only pill we all need to control them is the effort to do so. We are running around here as insomniacs that are so anxiety ridden, that we don't know what to do. A person told me the other day, that she takes some over the counter medicine called, "Slow Your Role" to help her sleep at night. We don't need these sleep aids. A lot of you take Five Hour Energy, and drink Red Bull after Red Bull for energy. We don't need all of this! Have you ever stopped to think about how your heart rate raises slightly after drinking those energy drinks?
****PLEASE REALIZE THAT YOU ARE TAKING MAN MADE AGENTS TO SUBSTITUTE YOUR BODY'S NATURAL FUNCTION****
All we need is peace of mind, that doesn't come at a price. It doesn't take much to sit in silence and quiet your mind. The first few times will be hard to make our minds quiet all of the constant chatter, but it can be done. When you can't control the constant mind chatter, that is when your mind has taken control of you, instead of vice versa. It is so much easier to be mad, frustrated, angry, bitter, and sad, as it is to be happy, easy going, enthusiastic, forgiving and carefree. It feels as if it takes more effort to be in positive mind; well, that is true. It does take more effort.
A lot of our problem is that we expect so much to be given to us, and we don't want to work for it. Sadly, you have to work for happiness; it won't just come to you effortlessly. If you are the type of person that seems to always be upset, ask yourself why. You might be surprised at how simple your "problems" and "issues" really are.
So start thinking today about what makes you so upset. What is that constant thing that keeps nagging you? Why are you wasting energy on thoughts that make you angry, frustrated, bitter, or sad? That energy can be used on "happy thoughts". Putting myself on blast: I am dealing with anger, frustration and bitterness. Every day is a constant fight to over-ride angry thoughts, or to not be so frustrated so easily, but I am a constant improvement. I sometimes, am surprised at how far I have come along. If you think I am snappy now, you should have known me a long time ago!
Keep thriving, don't stop trying, and just keep living. This life is yours; you deserve it, so act like you know it :)
****PLEASE REALIZE THAT YOU ARE TAKING MAN MADE AGENTS TO SUBSTITUTE YOUR BODY'S NATURAL FUNCTION****
All we need is peace of mind, that doesn't come at a price. It doesn't take much to sit in silence and quiet your mind. The first few times will be hard to make our minds quiet all of the constant chatter, but it can be done. When you can't control the constant mind chatter, that is when your mind has taken control of you, instead of vice versa. It is so much easier to be mad, frustrated, angry, bitter, and sad, as it is to be happy, easy going, enthusiastic, forgiving and carefree. It feels as if it takes more effort to be in positive mind; well, that is true. It does take more effort.
A lot of our problem is that we expect so much to be given to us, and we don't want to work for it. Sadly, you have to work for happiness; it won't just come to you effortlessly. If you are the type of person that seems to always be upset, ask yourself why. You might be surprised at how simple your "problems" and "issues" really are.
So start thinking today about what makes you so upset. What is that constant thing that keeps nagging you? Why are you wasting energy on thoughts that make you angry, frustrated, bitter, or sad? That energy can be used on "happy thoughts". Putting myself on blast: I am dealing with anger, frustration and bitterness. Every day is a constant fight to over-ride angry thoughts, or to not be so frustrated so easily, but I am a constant improvement. I sometimes, am surprised at how far I have come along. If you think I am snappy now, you should have known me a long time ago!
Keep thriving, don't stop trying, and just keep living. This life is yours; you deserve it, so act like you know it :)
.Psalm 27:1-3 MY TAKE ON IT. (A must read!)
The enemy doesn't care who they attack. The enemy is not always pretty, not always ugly, not always nice, not always mean. No matter what the enemy looks, acts, or thinks like, never think that you are excluded from them. When I say, enemy, I am not talking about a certain person. It can be a certain person, but it can also come in the form of your own confidence and self esteem, a place, or thing. You can go to a certain place more than one time in life, and everytime you arrive, bad things start to happen and don't stop until you leave. The thing could come in the form of, for example, drugs. Drugs can take over your mind, body and soul. They can even take over how you affect other people.
Focus on Psalm 27:3....."Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. Even though I am attacked, I will remain confident."
Always remain confident. If you know you are being attacked, remain confident. You just do your job at doing what is right, and let them set themselves up for a fall. Ask for God's help to remain confident. God wants us to be independent and strong, so try the confidence first without asking for help. Ask God to deal with the enemy accordingly. Ask Him with confidence. If it seems that your confidence is falling in the situation, pray. Ask for His help. Yes, sometimes remaining confident can be hard, but always remember, there is something that is permanently deep down inside of you that controls it, and you control that.
IMPORTANT NOTE TO REMEMBER: Always be who you are. Never try to live your life to satisfy others. If you think you are the be all that ends all in the world, then great! Other peoples' thoughts of you should never make you lose confidence in yourself. The enemy can smile in your face, and cut you with words as soon as you turn your back. The few seconds that it took for them to smile, it only takes half of that time for them to frown at you behind your back. You cannot allow that to affect you. *They talked about Jesus.*
It's no secret that people will try their best to cut you down and destroy you. It's how you let it affect you that really matters. Will you allow others to cut you down? Will you let other peoples' actions affect who you are as a person? If you know for a fact that someone dislikes you,will you continue to go around that person, live how they think you should live, or be who you are anyway and love them from a distance?
Now, if you are a person that "doesn't like" or judges someone else, especially on a regular basis, you might need to take some time to focus on who you are. I have always agreed that if you have to talk about or cut someone else down, then you are not happy with yourself. That's not a good thing. If you are truly happy with yourself, you will not find the time to cut someone else down, because you would be too busy delighting in who you are as a person and how great you are! If someone is confident in themselves, or walks around like they are the greatest thing alive, then compliment that person on their own confidence and work on your own. Don't be the enemy. Remember, if you are an enemy and you cut other people down, put yourself on the outside of Psalm 27:1-3, and realize that it is you that they are talking about when it says, "When evil people come to devour me, when my enemies and foes attack me, they will stumble and fall." This includes doing things to other people behind their backs to try to make them fail, talking about someone behind their backs, or downgrading people to their faces. How does that make you feel?
Think about it.
-Tameka R. Frost
Focus on Psalm 27:3....."Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. Even though I am attacked, I will remain confident."
Always remain confident. If you know you are being attacked, remain confident. You just do your job at doing what is right, and let them set themselves up for a fall. Ask for God's help to remain confident. God wants us to be independent and strong, so try the confidence first without asking for help. Ask God to deal with the enemy accordingly. Ask Him with confidence. If it seems that your confidence is falling in the situation, pray. Ask for His help. Yes, sometimes remaining confident can be hard, but always remember, there is something that is permanently deep down inside of you that controls it, and you control that.
IMPORTANT NOTE TO REMEMBER: Always be who you are. Never try to live your life to satisfy others. If you think you are the be all that ends all in the world, then great! Other peoples' thoughts of you should never make you lose confidence in yourself. The enemy can smile in your face, and cut you with words as soon as you turn your back. The few seconds that it took for them to smile, it only takes half of that time for them to frown at you behind your back. You cannot allow that to affect you. *They talked about Jesus.*
It's no secret that people will try their best to cut you down and destroy you. It's how you let it affect you that really matters. Will you allow others to cut you down? Will you let other peoples' actions affect who you are as a person? If you know for a fact that someone dislikes you,will you continue to go around that person, live how they think you should live, or be who you are anyway and love them from a distance?
Now, if you are a person that "doesn't like" or judges someone else, especially on a regular basis, you might need to take some time to focus on who you are. I have always agreed that if you have to talk about or cut someone else down, then you are not happy with yourself. That's not a good thing. If you are truly happy with yourself, you will not find the time to cut someone else down, because you would be too busy delighting in who you are as a person and how great you are! If someone is confident in themselves, or walks around like they are the greatest thing alive, then compliment that person on their own confidence and work on your own. Don't be the enemy. Remember, if you are an enemy and you cut other people down, put yourself on the outside of Psalm 27:1-3, and realize that it is you that they are talking about when it says, "When evil people come to devour me, when my enemies and foes attack me, they will stumble and fall." This includes doing things to other people behind their backs to try to make them fail, talking about someone behind their backs, or downgrading people to their faces. How does that make you feel?
Think about it.
-Tameka R. Frost
The Shackles On Your Feet Are Not Locked!
"Whatever our current circumstances may be,we must refuse to allow the events of our life to make us a prisoner." - Howard Thurman
I think that everyone that is within reading of this note has been through some things that have made us think twice about other situations that we may encounter. Sometimes we can have the chances of our lifetime, but, because of something that has happened to us in the past, we refuse to move forward.
I, myself, admit to struggling with trust in romantic relationships. Some of you know that I struggled with a past relationship that was hard for me to let go of. I went through a point where I blamed him very hard for hurting me and I declared very loudly, that I would never be in another relationship or trust another person. Although, I do struggle with trust still, I have moved past blaming someone else for the way I felt back then. I have accepted that the way things have turned out in my life, good or bad, were just steps that were already in order for my life.
When you allow things that have brought you down before to disrupt your life to the point that you can't let go, you are blocking your blessings. I am a big believer that God cannot give you what He wants to give you, if your arms are already full of baggage. If you are holding onto something, whether it is fear, regret, pain, anger or grudge, you are a prisoner of your own life. It is supposed to be the opposite way....you are suppose to control the way you handle things that come your way. Nobody wants to be a prisoner....but if you can't let go of things that you think have crippled you, then you are a prisoner.
The mind is such a powerful thing, but if we don't control our thinking, it can take us to places that we really don't want to be. We let fear consume us to the point that we won't try anything that can help us get ahead. If we get turned down for one job, we lag at going after another one. If we don't lose those couple of extra pounds as fast as we had planned, we give up and say that "we can't do it.'' Today is the day that you need to break the chain. Step out of the shackles that are on your feet. The chains and the shackles are not locked. You don't even need the keys to them.
-All is well in our world!
-Miss Tameka R. Frost
I think that everyone that is within reading of this note has been through some things that have made us think twice about other situations that we may encounter. Sometimes we can have the chances of our lifetime, but, because of something that has happened to us in the past, we refuse to move forward.
I, myself, admit to struggling with trust in romantic relationships. Some of you know that I struggled with a past relationship that was hard for me to let go of. I went through a point where I blamed him very hard for hurting me and I declared very loudly, that I would never be in another relationship or trust another person. Although, I do struggle with trust still, I have moved past blaming someone else for the way I felt back then. I have accepted that the way things have turned out in my life, good or bad, were just steps that were already in order for my life.
When you allow things that have brought you down before to disrupt your life to the point that you can't let go, you are blocking your blessings. I am a big believer that God cannot give you what He wants to give you, if your arms are already full of baggage. If you are holding onto something, whether it is fear, regret, pain, anger or grudge, you are a prisoner of your own life. It is supposed to be the opposite way....you are suppose to control the way you handle things that come your way. Nobody wants to be a prisoner....but if you can't let go of things that you think have crippled you, then you are a prisoner.
The mind is such a powerful thing, but if we don't control our thinking, it can take us to places that we really don't want to be. We let fear consume us to the point that we won't try anything that can help us get ahead. If we get turned down for one job, we lag at going after another one. If we don't lose those couple of extra pounds as fast as we had planned, we give up and say that "we can't do it.'' Today is the day that you need to break the chain. Step out of the shackles that are on your feet. The chains and the shackles are not locked. You don't even need the keys to them.
-All is well in our world!
-Miss Tameka R. Frost
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